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date: 20 October 2021


see also Relationships
  1. He who has a thousand friends has not a friend to spare,
    And he who has one enemy will meet him everywhere.
    Ali ibn-Abi-Talib c.602–661 Arab ruler, fourth Islamic caliph: A Hundred Sayings
  2. Amicus Plato, sed magis amica veritas.
    Plato is dear to me, but dearer still is truth.
    Aristotle 384–322 bc Greek philosopher: Latin translation of a Greek original ascribed to Aristotle
  3. When he was asked ‘What is a friend?’ he said ‘One soul inhabiting two bodies.’
    Aristotle 384–322 bc Greek philosopher: Diogenes Laertius Lives of Philosophers bk. 5, sect. 20
  4. It redoubleth joys, and cutteth griefs in halves.
    Francis Bacon 1561–1626 English lawyer, courtier, philosopher, and essayist: Essays (1625) ‘Of Friendship’
  5. There is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.
    The Bible (Authorized Version, 1611): Proverbs ch. 18, v. 24; see Kipling
  6. We must take our friends as they are.
    James Boswell 1740–95 Scottish lawyer; biographer of Samuel Johnson: diary, 25 February 1791
  7. Mates such as they must stand by one another.
    Mary Grant Bruce 1878–1958 Australian writer for children: Mates at Billabong (1911)
  8. Should auld acquaintance be forgot
    And never brought to mind?
    Robert Burns 1759–96 Scottish poet: ‘Auld Lang Syne’ (1796)
  9. Friendship is Love without his wings!
    Lord Byron 1788–1824 English poet: ‘L'Amitié est l'amour sans ailes’ (written 1806, published 1831)
  10. Give me the avowed, erect and manly foe;
    Firm I can meet, perhaps return the blow;
    But of all plagues, good Heaven, thy wrath can send,
    Save me, oh, save me, from the candid friend.
    George Canning 1770–1827 British Tory statesman, Prime Minister 1827: ‘New Morality’ (1821) l. 209
  11. Louis, I think this is the beginning of a beautiful friendship.
    Casablanca 1942 film: spoken by Humphrey Bogart: written by Julius J. Epstein (1909–2001), Philip G. Epstein (1909–52), and Howard Koch (1902–95)
  12. A woman can become a man's friend only in the following stages—first an acquaintance, next a mistress, and only then a friend.
    Anton Chekhov 1860–1904 Russian dramatist and short-story writer: Uncle Vanya (1897) act 2
  13. The man that hails you Tom or Jack,
    And proves by thumps upon your back
    How he esteems your merit,
    Is such a friend, that one had need
    Be very much his friend indeed
    To pardon or to bear it.
    William Cowper 1731–1800 English poet: ‘Friendship’ (1782)
  14. Oh, the comfort—the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person, having neither to weigh thoughts, nor measure words, but pouring them all out, just as they are, chaff and grain together; knowing that a faithful hand will take and sift them—keep what is worth keeping— and with the breath of kindness blow the rest away.
    Dinah Mulock Craik 1826–87 English novelist: A Life for a Life (1859)
  15. To find a friend one must close one eye. To keep him—two.
    Norman Douglas 1868–1952 Scottish-born novelist and essayist: South Wind (1917) ch. 11
  16. Friendships begin with liking or gratitude—roots that can be pulled up.
    George Eliot 1819–80 English novelist: Daniel Deronda (1876) bk. 4, ch. 32
  17. The only reward of virtue is virtue; the only way to have a friend is to be one.
    Ralph Waldo Emerson 1803–82 American philosopher and poet: Essays (1841) ‘Friendship’
  18. Of all the means which wisdom acquires to ensure happiness throughout the whole of life, by far the most important is friendship.
    Epicurus 341–271 bc Greek philosopher: Diogenes Laertius Lives of Eminent Philosophers bk. 10, sect. 148
  19. It is not so much our friends' help that helps us as the confidence of their help.
    Epicurus 341–271 bc Greek philosopher: Whitney J. Oates The Stoic and Epicurean Philosophers: The complete extant writings of Epicurus (1940) Fragments [Vatican Collection] no. 34
  20. Friends are the sunshine of life.
    John Hay 1838–1905 American diplomat and writer: in 1871; William Roscoe Thayer Life and Letters of John Hay (1915)
  21. My father always used to say that when you die, if you've got five real friends, you've had a great life.
    Lee Iacocca 1924–  American businessman: Iacocca: An Autobiography (1984)
  22. My life is spent in a perpetual alternation between two rhythms, the rhythm of attracting people for fear I may be lonely, and the rhythm of trying to get rid of them because I know that I am bored.
    C. E. M. Joad 1891–1953 English philosopher: in Observer 12 December 1948
  23. If a man does not make new acquaintance as he advances through life, he will soon find himself left alone. A man, Sir, should keep his friendship in constant repair.
    Samuel Johnson 1709–84 English poet, critic, and lexicographer: James Boswell Life of Samuel Johnson (1791) 1755
  24. Sir, I look upon every day to be lost, in which I do not make a new acquaintance.
    Samuel Johnson 1709–84 English poet, critic, and lexicographer: James Boswell Life of Samuel Johnson (1791) November 1784
  25. God's apology for relations.
    on friends
    Hugh Kingsmill 1889–1949 English man of letters: Michael Holroyd The Best of Hugh Kingsmill (1970)
  26. One man in a thousand, Solomon says,
    Will stick more close than a brother.
    Rudyard Kipling 1865–1936 English writer and poet: ‘The Thousandth Man’ (1910); see Bible
  27. However rare true love may be, true friendship is rarer.
    Duc de la Rochefoucauld 1613–80 French moralist: Maxims
  28. Oh I get by with a little help from my friends.
    John Lennon 1940–80 and Paul McCartney 1942–  English pop singers and songwriters: ‘With a Little Help From My Friends’ (1967 song)
  29. The typical expression of opening Friendship would be something like, ‘What? You too? I thought I was the only one.’
    C. S. Lewis 1898–1963 English literary scholar: The Four Loves (1960) ch. 4
  30. A friendship founded on business is a good deal better than a business founded on friendship.
    John D. Rockefeller 1839–1937 American industrialist and philanthropist: Random Reminiscences of Men and Events (1909)
  31. I count myself in nothing else so happy
    As in a soul remembering my good friends.
    William Shakespeare 1564–1616 English dramatist: Richard II (1595) act 2, sc. 3, l. 46 (Oxford Standard Authors ed.)
  32. Champagne to our real friends, and real pain to our sham friends.
    R. S. Surtees 1805–64 English sporting journalist and novelist: Jorrocks's Jaunts and Jollities (1838) ‘Mr Jorrocks's Dinner Party’
  33. I do not believe that friends are necessarily the people you like best, they are merely the people who got there first.
    Peter Ustinov 1921–2004 British actor, director, and writer: Dear Me (1977) ch. 5
  34. No man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive. He always wants to have sex with her…The sex thing is always out there so the friendship is ultimately doomed and that is the end of the story.
    When Harry Met Sally 1989 film: written by Nora Ephron
  35. Friendship is the only cement that will ever hold the world together.
    Woodrow Wilson 1856–1924 American Democratic statesman, 28th President 1913–21: speech at Metropolitan Opera House, New York, 17 May 1918
  36. I have lost friends, some by death…others through sheer inability to cross the street.
    Virginia Woolf 1882–1941 English novelist: The Waves (1931)
  37. Think where man's glory most begins and ends,
    And say my glory was I had such friends.
    W. B. Yeats 1865–1939 Irish poet: ‘The Municipal Gallery Re-visited’ (1939)